Ravenhairauthor, 42

I’m intense, but I say that’s a good thing I feel passionately about a lot of things in life! There’s nothing I enjoy more than a having a good discussion about hot-button topics others might shy away from, like religion or s--.

Speaking of religion, I actually converted to Hinduism as an adult, probably making me the only white Hindu you’ll ever meet. It comes with its own challenges, for sure, and I write a blog about it. But while I cook a lot of Indian food and spend a lot of time with the Indian community, I tend to get along best with people who describe themselves as “spiritual, but not religious.” So, we might have one of those passionate debates about Hinduism, but sharing beliefs is not necessary.

Something else I can’t live without is fiction writing, which I pursued through college in upstate New York and grad school in Los Angeles. In addition to my blog, I’ve written a book that’s sold over 100 copies – not enough to quit my day job, by any means, but it’s something of which I’m deeply proud.

Beyond that, most of my social life is wrapped up with my best friend, Sarah, and her husband. We’ve got a group that gets together to play video games and watch Dr. Who, so if you enjoy those things you’ll fit right in. I’m not really one for clubs or bars because they’re loud and I don’t drink anyway, so these nights at home are perfect for me.

And more than someone who’d prefer movie nights and cuddling on the couch to big outings, I’m hoping to find someone unflappable. I tend to be a little more high-strung, so a man who can stay calm in a crisis is always comforting to me. I generally like guys who are a little geekier, too, so if you’ve got a “nerdy” hobby you should definitely tell me about it so I can give it a try.

At the end of the day, I’m a generous, nonjudgmental person, and I’m just hoping to meet someone with whom I can feel chemistry. So write me a message if you think we’d get along, or if you’re up for a good discussion!