How does your disability affect your S-- life?

[hopalong]

1 How does a paraplegic respond to s----l intercourse?
2 Does a amputee's stump become an errogenous zone?
3 Does a quadraplegic's response to S-- differ from a paraplegic?
4 In relationships, are partners more concerned about the disability?
5 If there were no neighbors would relationships depend on disability?
6 Are one night stands freedom of choice and why?
7 Can incontinance be overcome during sex?
8 What are some bonding rituals that can strengthen relationships?
9 If there were no disease's or pain what would measure strength?
10 How far do women travel to share intimate time? how about men?

[starkie_PREV (deleted)]

need to think over all those.

[cooldiamond (deleted)]

i am a diabetic so i have a few problems especially my S-- drive i havnt really got a healthy S-- drive i would like to meet with someone who foesnt want S-- all the time but i cannot find anyone

[chris244]

this is just my opinion

1 How does a paraplegic respond to s----l intercourse?
Depends on the person. For me intercourse is good for my ego and hopefully for the partner as well but I like alot of variety in S-- and don't look at intercourse as being the end product of all s----l expereinces.

2 Does a amputee's stump become an errogenous zone?
Yes, I plead the 5th before offering any more details

3 Does a quadraplegic's response to S-- differ from a paraplegic?
Yes, the few quads I have been with had better sensation below the injury than paras but we had to be wary of causing uncomfortable sensations and sending them into disryflexic shock if they came.


4 In relationships, are partners more concerned about the disability?
Depends, some don't know what to expect so are cautious others just love the person and their body and dis are secondary. To me S-- is not so much the act anymore but the getting together of two people sharing some quality intimate time with each other.


5 If there were no neighbors would relationships depend on disability?
hmmmmmmmm..... Did you like do a lot of drugs when you were young?

6 Are one night stands freedom of choice and why?
Yes I believe it is a persons choice to do what is right for them at the time and not what society says we should do or not do. I used to have some of my beliefs put in place by society but the more I examine myself the more I decide what is right and wrong for me instead of taking something for granted. "Oh society says a male is always out just for S-- and insensative so I should behave that way". BS I am who I am and the older I get the less I am looking for S-- and just into conversation and being with somebody.

7 Can incontinance be overcome during sex?
yes, many of us SCI have funny stories about things that have happened around this subject. Using chucks is a start, being open and honest and try and laugh about it helps.

8 What are some bonding rituals that can strengthen relationships?
thought that said 'bondage' so I better keep what I was thinking quiet. Life is short and there is no better day than today.

9 If there were no disease's or pain what would measure strength?
Far out question. I am betting you might still be doing drugs

10 How far do women travel to share intimate time? how about men?
I live in Oregon of course have travelled to washington and California to h--k up with someone. Have also traveled to New Jersey and Japan. Dis women have traveled to see me from Australia and N. Carolina and of course California and Washington. I have driven to Eugene, which is about 3 hours away, on a whim.

Great questions

[dixie_PREV (deleted)]

1 How does a paraplegic respond to s----l intercourse?
Well I am not a paraplegic, but I have had S-- with a woman who was paralyzed in both legs. It didn’t seem to be a problem for her or for me. Have not had an experience yet with a guy like that, but why would it be any different no matter what diability you have. S-- is what you make of it when it comes to having a disability. AND it can be a lot for passionate than with someone who doesn’t have a disability.
2 Does a amputee's stump become an errogenous zone?
Yes it does. It just like a guy who is losing his hair and now has a bald spot. Just another place to lick suck and kiss.
3 Does a quadriplegic's response to S-- differ from a paraplegic?
Depend’s on how much they are into the S-- mentally. You can watch someone do something for you and be pleased. And as long as they can talk and there are S-- toys in the world shouldn’t be a problem for the one who is visually stimulating the Quadriplegic.
4 In relationships, are partners more concerned about the disability?
Yes they are in my experience. I know when I became disabled my husband had no use for me at all se---lly whatsoever. That’s why it’s best to find like minded people. I guess if you still have to be married to him you find friend’s who can give you love and support and visit the Adult Toy Store till he comes to his senses.
5 If there were no neighbors would relationships depend on disability?
No because there are always people out there that need to be with someone reguardless. They just don’t like being alone. Otherwise you end up with 35 cats.
6 Are one night stands freedom of choice and why?
Of course they are freedom of choice. I have never had a one night stand where I didn’t know from the moment I laid eyes on the guy it was going to be a one night stand and had S-- with him anyway. Now if you are in a relationship with someone no they are no free. It will end up costing you something in the end. Even if your lady never finds out.
7 Can incontinance be overcome during sex?
Yes it can.
8 What are some bonding rituals that can strengthen relationships?
Talk, talk, talk. S-- exploration, Doing things together in public and did I mention COMMUNICATION.
9 If there were no disease's or pain what would measure strength?
How long you can stay married to the same person and still have a true heart felt passion and love for that person. Even if they don’t cause you pain and they always do in the real world they would still sometime make you mad, or irritate you.
10 How far do women travel to share intimate time? how about men?
I have never traveled more than 1 hour and I’m a chick.

[dixie_PREV (deleted)]

Ok Hopalog.... You asked the questions. We answered. Now you have to answer. Want to know what your opinion is too.

[susiet_PREV (deleted)]

Me thinks Hopalong just gets off on this stuff, hence no reply - go on we dare you!

[dixie_PREV (deleted)]

Yes all these emotional-sexual-intellect questions have us wondering about the person who asks these questions. He seems to have vanished.

[oldangrey (deleted)]

Hopalong you still there?

[hotwheels66]

Hopalong and Chris, I think these are great questions and answers . This got me to thinking about things that i had not thought about, i appreciate that. I think before I can answer these, I have to search myself first. After all that's where it starts.

[uniquewonder]

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[bob1967]

`The "poll" asked "How does your disability affect your S-- life?" My answer woud be WHAT S-- LIFE? I can't get someone interested in me to SAVE MY LIFE!!! My S-- life is NON-EXISTANT!!!

[recordpd (deleted)]

`Here's a question that wasn't asked. What do you do if you have E.D. My answer is : there is more to S-- than intercourse. What's your answer?