Hi Everyone...Why is it Hard to get a Response???

[raymond4luv]

Hello everyone,i am new to this site,i have been looking for free disable dating sites like this and it took me ages to find this one.
well i am new to this and i dont even know where to go and what too do next.i have sent some emails to some people but i never get any reply and i dont know why.People just make disable feel bad like we aint human or something.just because we are victims of circumstances doesn't mean we cant love or be treated well.I came here to see if i can find another disabled to have something serious with but so far i dont think there's such thing on here.I only have one eye disability and thats it,my other eye is perfectly fine..
Is there someone out there or every female here aint ready for a relationship??[/i]

[robbiexxx (deleted)]

`hi raymond4luv welcome to this disabled passion site and i will keep in touch with you later raymond4luv from your friend robbiexxx.

[ibelievenyou (deleted)]

`Well, I see this message is already a little stale, but on the chance you are still out there Raymond. You aren't alone in what you've expressed. Unfortunately, it seems to be par for the course on most, if not all, of sites like this. I have joined a number of them, and it's always the same. No reply. It's sad, as far as I'm concerned, because it would be just a common courtesy to respond to someone who took the time to contact you. Just to even say, "Got your e-mail, but sorry, not interested". This is a pretty fancy site, as far as these sites go. they offer a lot, for free, too. But there just doesn't seem to be much going on. I feel like I'm walking around a ghost town. What's up with that? I mean, really folks! We all could use a friend, no?

[msshorty (deleted)]

`hi Raymond and everyone im new to this also but i have been hear long enough to get a respond but no one seem to be talking on here i know it says 100% free site but maybe not but if anyone want to chat i'll be here

[deloris9]

`hi misshorty

u learn the 1 lesson when u join this site,no 1 hardly ever respond back.ive been on here longer than u,n had some hit n miss. i cant give u more advise than that,since i havent had much luck myself.lol

[y2j1980x]

`I agree with eyebelievenyou when he/she (sorry, not obvious) said they sent out numerous greetings on other sites but they were ignored completely : I tried my comfortable, polite and chatty method, not mentioning disability off the bat (brain injury but nearly recovered now) and instead just focussing on making regular conversation - not being overly self absorbed while also offering info about myself so she had something to form a response with.

Nothing. Nada.

I gave up on the nice approach and went and tried a few of the sites devoted specifically to XXX activity, only contacting women whose profiles stipulated wanting online contact only (don't want to mess anyone around offline right now).

No responses - a few 'winks' (ie acknowledgment of existance with a token reply) but nothing ever written.

I tried a pay-matchmaking site for the disabled. Had a few women send winks my way, which was great, but they didn't respond when I said hi and asked how they were.

The exercise was one of depression - I actually thought I was the only one getting ignored/palmed off like this, but I see this is not the case and this sort of thing is common with online dating sites.

One reply above, from memory, said that it would be common courteousy to at least say 'thanks but no thanks' and I couldn't agree more. Being left in the dark is much more lonely than being slapped while there, I think.

I like online dating sites because of how serious my brain injury used to be. They're a medium allowing you to take time in formulating an appropriate response. I now see there as being too much time to think as people seldom reply.

I'm not blind to the fact people may just not like me, but it's impossible to form that opinion based solely on one message.

I think there should be more matchmaking sites specifically for those with disbility.

[msshorty (deleted)]

`i known deloris ...its like no one is there i met two peoples but it see like they just talk to u for a min then their gone

[deloris9]

`WELL, IVE BEEN ON THIS SITE SINCE 09 N POST 56 TIME NOT TO MENTION CHANGE MY PF 3 TIMES; FEW HITS BUT ALOT OF MISSES,I GAVE IT MY BEST SHOT,BUT MY BEST WASNT GOOD ENOUGH ..2 SONG IN 1.LOL
BUT I WANT TO SAY THAT YAHOO.COM NOW HAVE VIDEO CHAT 4 ANY 1 WHO CARES.
P.S...ITS 4 FREE

[jeffspirit (deleted)]

May be the popularity of other websites. It's YouTube, FaceBook, MySpace formerly, AOL and Yahoo of the day. Unless Passions is out to be noticed, nobody is going to stay here. The where it's at thing.

Didn't come here to find anyone for a ---- --, came here to find online friends like real world. Here, it's dead zoned, like it's a roadside place where it's a freebie thing, but not popular, or is a place wanted to be popular such as FaceBook.
Numbers matter with ratings, etc. Like YouTube does. If a site don't rate, no popularity, no traffic. Those who come are wayside travelers. That's how I am, don't go to the place where the "in crowd" is, am a wayfaring stranger. Off the beaten path kind of person, I take the back roads to go slow see the scenery. Not in a rush for progress or do I need to do that, don't want to be popular to stand out. Just a passer by.

That could be a clue right there, passers by, who go right on by that roadside place, see it there but don't stop. Those who do, look, move on. Don't leave a clue they've been here. Not interested enough to sign the guest book if there is one. Window shop persons I'd label some.

Anyway my take on here. A wayfaring stranger myself.

[xgothamgurlx (deleted)]

`I have been on a couple other dating sites and I have the same problem. Most of the times guys don't contact me back. Though in their profiles they always act like they want to be with someone. I do find it frustrating at times 'cause I take the time to write to someone and if I like the guy, I do mean it. I'm not the type to put in a long chase. I am direct and to the point.
I wish everyone else good luck, it's a shame it seems to happen quite a bit.

[suds00]

i think the disabled seem to the the only minority where rampant discrimination occurs.

[vidiopticon1 (deleted)]

`Not everyone is on at the same time (required for chat which is now stuck...won't launch) and maybe we do not check back for reply's often enough due to how one may have many posts to check and how must navigate.
Once found , it is so much easier to use plain email.
So maybe people find each other and then poof disappear into their own email to converse.
So so many sites lure you in and as soon as you find some one they will not let you contact them unless you pay $39.95 fee (my phone bill is less!). That scares people from trying much beyond peeking briefly
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[feedback]

We thought we would take a moment to remind everyone that our sites are 100% free.

We do not ask for your credit card information at any point.

Thanks,


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[vidiopticon1 (deleted)]

`OH! Thank you for confirming that. Many of us have run into ...well I already said it. We are gun shy now.
And BTW the missing posts are now visible. I think it is just turnaround lag which is apparently quite large now.

[vidiopticon1 (deleted)]

`Hello Suds00. I have run into the same thing 'out in the world'. Yeah there are ramps and the pebble surfaces to tell where you are but that is just hardware. There is peopleware we have to contend with; maybe always will.
In a place like this (any email or posting place) all one see's is what you tell them. So where there is a place where you figure there will be people who are... eh... call them anti devotee? or eetoved's ? ... you can keep that info from them. They won't know. They can't discriminate since they have not the foggiest idea.
HERE in this kind of site, we have things in common so it's not bad to let each other know. Well all have our own leaky ships and rusty anchors.
So it would appear we need to stick together, like any group does that has a common cause.
Yer not alone in seeing this stuff. I have seen it since 1971.