heart Player

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I am wondering why some people play with people's hearts? I mean if a guy is not interested why can't he just say so instead of flirting and acting like he is interested. Me personally rather have a guy tell me straight up that he is not interested than play with the heart and the feelings. I had this happen to me almost two years ago. This guy acted like he was interested. He called me ALOT flirt with me. Only to find out later on that he had someone and i had asked him if he was with anyone. well anyways time went by and he instant message me only to tell me that he had gotten married. It made me mad and of course it hurt me. I have looked passed it and moved on.. he and i don't talk any more. has anyone had the similar thing happen. Is it just me but does it discourage one from wanting to find some?

[kindhearted28_PREV (deleted)]

I am sorry to hear that someone you actually thought you knew, hurt you in a manner so harsh. I truly feel your pain... I've had a similar experience several years ago. We were friends since I first started going online for the first time. We fell in love like two years later and he promised me he would marry me, I was my happiest, we ALWAYS kept in contact and we would call each other all the time. Then one day he just went M.I.A. on me for about an entire year. No calls, no emails, no snail mail. A year later he contacted me and told me he met someone and he got married. I was so crushed there after. Till this day I have not spoken to him or made any effort to call him. I was bitter about it for a long time but moved on. I think experiences like these happen for a reason, I guess the reason being is to make us stronger within. But no matter what keep up your faith and one day you will meet that one person that will love you and respect you for everything you are. Your kindred, the one person you will grow old with. Like Tennesse Williams once said:
"When your candle burns low, you've got to believe that the last light shows you something besides the progress of darkness"

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i am a survivor. so i have moved passed it and i am sure we both will be fine..... i do think god puts us through these test to survive. if that makes sense. i think the key word is survival.......

[rballi88]

In regards to heart player,I have a good one for you.And this just happened to me in the past 3 weeks. I met a 38 year old woman 5 months ago and we started talking and eventually started dating. Things were going real good between us we got intimate with each other and were talking of getting married in about a year. Then all of a sudden in may she started backing off and pushing me away. I bought many nice things and treated her like a queen. But all of a sudden things changed and she started pushing me away. I asked her why are you doing this to me?
Her answer was that there was this guy she really liked and she had'nt heard from him in a year for being in iraq and now he was calling her and they decided to get back together. well needless to say, she returned my house key and said WE CAN STILL BE FRIENDS AND CALL EACH OTHER . I told her do you really think that i am that stupid to keep calling you. I told her i never wanted to see her or hear from her again. The B---- really broke my heart. BURNING THE CANDLE AT BOTH ENDS AND I GOT BURNED . I hope when they get intimate with each other he gives her an IRAQI DISEASE. I know that cruel but she deserves it for breaking my heart.

[deloris9]

`a former member wrote or ask this question:

I am wondering why some people play with people's hearts?
i thought about this question n read all the responds,i truly believe that some ppl get off on hurtin others.it also happen to me,when i was 18 or 19.i met him in a grocery store,we always spoke after midnight because he worked so late.

he was a true gentleman,he spoke well of his dead mother n how he was tryin to make her proud even though she was gone.we met only once n spoke on the phone a few times.as always i waited for his call,when i notice that this call was different as his voice.he told me that his old gf called him n they was talkin about gettin back together.like he said,he didnt want to play with my emotion OR lead me on.i dont believe he did it on purpose.he was very truthful n i still luv n respect him for that.he was the first guy to make me cry by being himself,even though we met for only a moment in time.i wish i could speak with his mom n tell her,she maybe gone but she did a great job raising her son:)..ITS BETTER TO LOVE AND LOST THAN TO NEVER LOVE AT ALL...as the old sayin goes